“I’m good*, just really busy”
*insert whatever similar line you say as a reflex when someone asks.
I’m almost certain you’ve said it before, and I know I have. What do we really mean by “busy”?
We’re going to dive into that world a little, what it has to do with mindful social media consumption, and how to get started changing your social media habits for the better.
If you’re anything like me, sometimes you prefer a little bit more detail in a form that can be read, bookmarked, and used as a resource with actionable steps. So here we are.
Prior to owning a business, I had no idea what a hashtag was, and my online presence (other than occasionally silently lurking and accidentally liking someones’ cousin-in-law’s wedding photos on Facebook from 2007. That’s what the internet is really for-right? 😬) was extremely limited.
If you know anything about the business that I’ve created, you know that I’ve put a lot of love and energy into learning about the benefits of a strong visual brand and social media presence for my business and putting it into practice, which serendipitously re-ignited my love for photography.
These days (2021) I have an Instagram for coaching and food, one for photography, a page for Mr. Clarence (despite thinking I’d never be “that person” whose dog has an IG) a business Facebook , a twitter, tiktok, pinterest.
If I had no boundaries in place surrounding social media, this would be pretty bananas.
By bananas, I mean unsustainable and full of doom scrolling.
Before we get into how these boundaries can look – let’s go over the good, bad, and in-between effects of social media consumption.
Social media can be really, really good.
I’ve met new friends on social media, it can give a sense of community, and allow for an opportunity to connect with groups of people that you identify with but may not have access to locally.
Like vegans, people who read the same books you love, or people who also have precious rescue dogs.
After thinking about the state of social media affairs, I did a little survey on my Instagram (oh, the irony) and 70% of viewers said that they don’t feel like they have a healthy consumption of social media. Only showing up for connections on social media rarely get’s past the reflexive answer of “I’m good, just really busy”.
Do you know those accounts that make you cringe when you look at their content?
Maybe it’s a brand, someone doing something similar to you, someone who’s been nasty to you in some way, a family member, or an old friend whose blurry photos aren’t adding anything to your life.
This is a friendly reminder that you don’t have to intake content that doesn’t bring you joy. I repeat:
You have no obligation to intake content that doesn’t bring you joy.
Let that sink in, then get to muting and unfollowing.
Even if you are going to have some scroll and interaction time, you should do it in a way that doesn’t trigger anxiety, stress, and comparison for you. When to mute vs. unfollow? The times I’m most likely to mute vs. unfollow:
This is a personal choice, and there’s no perfect answer.
If you struggle with setting boundaries with your electronics (if you own a TV, smartphone, or computer this is probably you, and it’s fine), I would suggest utilizing features and apps that limit your screen time for you, like the screen time setting within your iPhone (settings > screentime >set app limits & downtime).
When setting this boundary I recommend:
Last but not least, make time for nurturing friendships and connections in person.
It’s impossible for us to be friends and form legitimate human connections with thousands of people at once. There is no substitution for face-to-face connection with our people, even if we feel like we’re being “social” all the time online. When I first wrote this blog in 2018, obviously social distancing wasn’t a thing to keep in mind – but it still stands that interpersonal communication (even virtual) is a more vulnerable way to connect than social media.
I’ll leave you with a challenge: this week, take some of the time you would usually spend scrolling on Facebook or Instagram, reach out to a friend or someone you want to be friends with and set a date to get coffee and actually get to know one another. At the very least, set up a time to FaceTime someone you haven’t talked to in a while. See how things are going for them outside of the highlight reel that is their social media.
Come over to my Instagram and tell me about your biggest takeaway and your coffee date 🙂